What did you promise to change about yourself back in January? Was it to lose weight, quit smoking, or get out more? Maybe it was a combination of things.
‘Fess up. How’s that going for you? If you’re like 92% of Americans, you’ll have failed already – just a month after committing to it in the first place. We all start off with such good intentions – so why do we fail so hard?
Well – it’s actually pretty simple, and Bulletproof Exec sums it up pretty well:
- People make unrealistic resolutions.
- People don’t equip themselves with the mental ammunition to fight off doubt and continue with their goals.
- Using guilt or fear as motivation, or resolving to stop doing something.
So, #1 just about rules out our goal to ‘Drop 50 pounds’, or ‘Get healthy’. As for #2 or #3… well they make sense. We can’t just stop at the first sign of danger; life’s just not that black and white. At least when it comes to New Year’s resolutions, a failure isn’t an ending – it’s a deviation, a bump in the road, a chink in your windshield. You know that first carb you had following your fast in January? It doesn’t matter. You haven’t failed; your diet’s not over; you’re still on track. The key to ultimate success is just keeping at it, and being diligent in the face of hardship.
The point is this: if you resolve to make a simple positive change, keep at it, and understand that you’re making the change for a good reason, you’re equipping yourself with the tools necessary to succeed.
And actually, it’s not too different from adventure when you think about it:
- People want unrealistic adventures (given their schedules, etc.)
- People don’t equip themselves with the mental ammunition to make space for these adventures.
- People are scared to break out of their routines.
Here, #1 is only true if #2 and #3 are also true. For example, if I’m reluctant to leave my couch behind, and find it tough to commit… that trip to Antarctica is probably not going to happen.
But the more you break out of your routine – you know, a detour here; a road trip there – the easier these bigger decisions will become. And that’s what we want – because everyone should be able to make their life an adventure.
Let us know how your resolutions are coming along on twitter, or right here on the Allett site.
Bye for now,